Earlier this month I wrote about temper tantrums on social media and I had some requests to also post the same information on the blog, so by popular demand, here are 10 tips on how to handle temper tantrums.
Children, primarily toddlers, are still learning their emotions and how to regulate them. Know tantrums are a normal part of development and you’re not alone in handling them! Many tantrums cannot be avoided but here are a few tips to remember when they happen!
1️⃣ Stay calm and know it will pass. The more you try and stop it the worse it will get. Practice active ignoring. Practice deep breathing!
2️⃣ Your child will not be able to rationalize when they are escalated. Discuss their emotions when they are calm.
3️⃣ Know your child’s triggers and pre plan for them
4️⃣ Distract your child when a tantrum is starting to erupt. Give them space and or fresh air. Show them something they’ll like to deflect their attention
5️⃣ Give your child a means to express themselves without injuring themselves or you like hitting a pillow
6️⃣ Support them and let them know emotions are healthy to express in a safe, respectful, and responsible way
7️⃣ Praise them when they behave appropriately
8️⃣ Give them warnings before a transition “Two minutes left before we leave the park!”
9️⃣ Show by your own example how to behave
And lastly, besides your teachings, supplement and have them learn emotions and how to express them by watching an episode of Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood on PBS on feeling mad or frustrated. Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood is one of our favorite shows to watch in the house and there are a lot of helpful episodes on a variety of topics!